Put That Spark Back
Helping to mend broken relationships
Don’t Let those Old Habits Creep Back and Get the Better of You!
Well it’s been a while and sometimes those old habits creep back in! It’s inevitable. But what’s different is your past experience has taught you how to deal with it. You are in a different place now and are a different person, well both of you are. So rest assured, those little glitches will soon [...]
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You are there!
How do you know when you’ve got there, when all your hard work has paid off? Of course everyone is different, but if you keep at it and don’t do anything to jeopardise things, sooner or later, it should feel like “it” never happened! I’m not saying that everyone should go through this kind of [...]
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Having a Life outside of your Relationship
Once things are really on the mend and believe me, you will know when that is, it’s time to think about adding a new dimension to your life. It may be that your friends have been supportive all along, which is great, but if that’s not the case, then maybe it’s time to start going [...]
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Lessons in Life
Since you and your partner have put in so much work, you need to stay focused on the job in hand and give yourself credit for your achievements. Life isn’t easy for anyone, even people with pots of money! Look at all those celebrities who can’t seem to keep their relationships together – “another Hollywood [...]
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Don’t Forget the Kids
From my own experiences, when you are trying to mend your broken relationship, it is easy to focus too much on your relationship with your partner and forget about the kids. They have suffered too and can be just as hurt as you, maybe more so as they wouldn’t understand the complexities of adult relationships. [...]
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Are You Getting There?
You feel you have done as much as you can so far. Can you do more or are you fed up of trying so hard? At times it may feel like you are treading on egg shells. Unfortunately, its a direct result of the situation you are both in. But, once you have regained that [...]
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Life is Flowing?
Life seems to be getting back to normal, or as normal as is possible. You will feel angry and hurt for a long time and ask why me, it’s just not fair! Well, if you look at the divorce statistics, you’ll see that the number of couples calling time is pretty high; don’t be just [...]
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And continuing…….
So you’ve shared your thoughts and feelings and you’ve realised that he/she felt the same. Great! You’re singing from the same hymn sheet. (If not, don’t worry, at least you will have expressed your feelings and your mind will be put at rest.) So, next you need to focus on the good work you have been [...]
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What next?
So, you’ve made your decision and you’ve started to make changes. That’s great! Remember, it takes a long long time and you will have some days when you think it’s just not working. Don’t worry, you WILL get there. Be patient and give yourself time, change takes time. You will find triggers everywhere reminding you [...]
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What you need to do……
Forgiveness takes time – in my case, around 3 years! You need to remember what attracted you to each other and start spending quality time together – get babysitters for the kids, buy little gifts, declare your love but be honest; you may not be ‘in love’ but still love each other, it’s a start. [...]
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